Sunday, 5 January 2014

You're too healthy

“You’re too skinny” “You’re too healthy” “Don’t you ever eat anything unhealthy” “Eat that chocolate you can afford to put the weight on” “It’s unfair that you’re that skinny” “Wait till you have kids, then you won’t be so skinny”
I hear these words a lot, more so in the last 2 years. It’s very different to hear them compared to what I heard growing up
“You’re so fat and ugly” “You'll never get a boyfriend cause you too fat” “You’re fat” “You'll never be pretty while you’re that size” 
I heard that ever since I was started school when I was 5. It took until 2011 when I was 26 for it change around.
I'll get something clear here – I've never been fat. I look back at photos of myself and I wasn't fat. Yes I did in late high school have a few extra kilos on me at one point but I wasn't what you call fat. I always thought I was fat, cause society, peers, media, clothing sizes said I was, even my doctor told me not to gain any more than 2 kilos as I’d be in the unhealthy weight range (stupid BMI).
I'm not sure what caused the change around and why it went from you’re too fat to you’re too skinny. I have lost some weight over that past few years but that’s due to getting serious with my health and eating right, plus being true to my sensitivities – wheat-free, dairy-free and my hypoglycaemiaI still have a long way to go with being healthy, I still have my moments and I need some more work but I am proud of how far I have come and how I won’t let others change my way of eating.
I'll be honest I use to let what people said affect my eating. I would sometimes (still occasionally do) indulge but then have to live with the sugar headaches or stomach pains afterwards and it just wasn't worth it or I’d skip meals to try and be called skinny but then I’d pass out cause my blood sugar level dropped too low.  I’d punish my body so it would be what everyone wanted my body to be. Only thing is what did I want my body to be? It’s taken most of my life to be content with my figure, I still need to work on eating the right amount of food (I really don’t eat enough) but I want my body to healthy and fit cause I'm the one that has to live in this body no one else.
You can’t win in today’s world. You’re hated for being fat and you’re hated for being skinny. Being “skinny” or “fat” doesn't matter what matters is you’re healthy. Healthy can come in all shapes and sizes, we are all different body types, heights, bone sets etc. You could weight 70 kgs and be healthy or you could weight 70 kgs and be unhealthy, it depends on your body type, your bone structure, your height, your background, so many different things. I remember in year 7 we had to weight ourselves in PE and everyone got to see how much you weighed. I was one of the heaviest at 55 kgs so you can imagine how that went down at an all girls school, it was hell. I wasn't fat, I was tall.
Being healthy is not a crime, yes others may make you feel like it is, others may try to sabotage you, they might even tell you off and say you’re doing it to make them look bad. But don’t let that stop you from being healthy, from eating healthy foods, from exercising, from having the occasional treat (or healthy treat) because at the end of the day it’s your body and you have to live with it not them. I once had a wise lady say to me “They aren't angry at you, they are angry at themselves, they just taking it out on you”. It’s good advice, not just with this situation but all situations, most people lash out at you cause they are angry with themselves  and you are an easy target.  
So keep working hard at being healthy and being active – it’s your life to live – enjoy it. I'll support you!!!!
Have you ever had this or something similar happen to you? Let me know, leave me a comment down below.
Photos from Free Photos (link here)


  1. Never ever apologise for being "too healthy" CJ. So long as you occasionally have some treats and don't obsess over the healthiness of every meal that you eat, there is nothing wrong with aiming to eat healthy for most meals. When people tell you that you are "too healthy", what they are really saying is that they are embarassed that they don't have the commitment to be as healthy as you, and so by telling you that you are doing something wrong they will then feel better about themselves. Never give in to other people's negative statements when you know you are doing the right thing xoxo

    1. Thanks Glenda, that's good advice. It's so hard not to take in what others say, but it's way better for us if we don't listen to it.
      Thanks again :)

  2. God yes, this resonated with me. I didn't get anything in primary school but once high school hit (in the late 80s for me) it did start to pick up, especially from around 13 years onwards. My name (Nat) made a useful rhyme (fat Nat). Except, like you, I wasn't. I have a solid frame and back in my mid teens I could probably have lost 5kg but I certainly wasn't large. But the class weigh in, we did that once. It was AWFUL. It was just at the age that girls start getting really conscious about their weight and it was plastered up on the wall for everyone to see. I think at the time I was about 58kg, and second tallest in the class at about 160cm (though 3 years later I was one of the shortest in the class), while many of the other girls were around 50-54kg. Crazy that I still remember all those numbers after so many years.

    1. Thank you for sharing that with me. It's so mean what people can do with a name. Yes I don't get why they have to do that in school, we already have enough problems without it being shown for all to see. Ha ha it's not crazy I still remember all the comments from all those years ago, even though we grow older we don't forget.

  3. A brilliant message, so well written :)


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